Emily’s Story - My biggest challenge yet The Red Warrior challenge!
Updated: Mar 18
Being born with a disability like cerebral palsy doesn’t come without its challenges but do I let them define who I am? From being born 3 months premature, weighing barely 2 pounds, years of hospital, doctors and physiotherapy appointments to the daily challenges I face today. My cerebral palsy mainly effects my legs and learning to walk unaided was one of the biggest, the struggles of having to wear plaster casts, use a walking frame, wear splits and orthopaedic shoes as I grew are still real in my mind today but did I get there? Yes I did. A lot of people say to me school must have been tough on you but in all honestly school was nothing compared to what I’ve faced in my life as I've got older, mentally more than physically. In my mid/late teens, slowly realising that life for me wasn’t going to be easy and as I faced the reality of leaving school and going out into the world on my own I started to suffer with depression and anxiety. I cut myself off from all my friends and spent a lot of time at home hiding away, to me that was easier than having to explain how I felt to people.
Over the next few years my depression was up and down but managed well with medication.
I manage to live pretty much a normal life, I have a job and more recently I’ve moved into my own home, I can do everyday tasks easily.
About 18 months ago I really started to struggle, my depression and anxiety was at its worst, to the point where I wouldn’t go out the house by myself at all. I would make excuses to avoid going out or seeing anyone. I would have panic attacks, thinking I was going to trip over or fall. Even the thought of walking out of my front door to my car, something I’ve done hundreds of times before would upset me. Like most people I ignored it at first just hoping it would just go away. Eventually it started to effect my work, I was late most days, I wasn’t concentrating when I was there, I was constantly worrying and sometimes I would just drive around avoiding going home.
There is only so much a person can take, although some of my close family did sort of know what I was going through I avoided talking to them and never really spoke to anyone about it as somehow I felt like I was burdening them and trying to keep everything to yourself only makes everything worse.
I was completely at my lowest point, I was lonely and felt like I had no where to turn. I started to think about taking my own life and even self harmed, not even that made me realise I needed help. That moment came one Monday morning when I broke down and had a panic/anxiety attack at work. This time I couldn’t hide it from anyone not my boss, colleagues, friends or family. Within the next week or so I went to the doctor, who changed my medication and I started to see my counsellor regularly again. Slowly things started to get better, my confidence started to grow I started going out by myself and seeing my friends again. Things were getting better but I still wasn’t happy within myself, I still felt as though something was missing. That was when I friend suggested to me why don’t you start going to the gym?
At first the thought of me going to the gym sounded totally ridiculous, what was I going to be able to do at the gym? But once the seed was planted it was something I couldn't stop thinking about, what if I could?
So eventually I plucked up the courage and went along to a consultation and we talked a lot about me and what I wanted to get from this and what I wanted to achieve. One of the main words used in that conversation was confidence. I came away from that thinking, just give it a try what’s the worst that could happen?
My first session went exactly how I excepted it to, I was really nervous and thought I wasn’t really achieving much but I was there. When I left that session I realised that my biggest challenge was just walking through that door and I’d done that so what was stopping me from going again, nothing.
Over the next few weeks and months I kept going regularly and with right support and guidance from Richard my confidence grew daily. Slowly I started to see some progress physically and mentally and I started to realise that I could do anything at the gym it just takes a bit more time patience. 10 months later and can’t imagine not going to the gym now, I’ve achieved some amazing things from being totally freaked at the thought of pull ups to actually doing them and even deadlifting! It’s not always easy and there are a lot of things we do have to work around but we always find a way. Everyone’s gym journey is different, we are not all the same.
One thing I do know for certain though, the gym is and will be part of my life now and finding a PT and friend like Richard who has shown so much belief in me even when I didn’t see it in myself to help me on my journey means so much me. I’m actually excited about what the future holds for me. Who knows what I could achieve in the next 10 months?
I’ve faced a lots of challenges in my life but on October 6th this year I will be facing my biggest, toughest one yet.
I will be taking part in The Red Warrior Challenge 5k obstacle course race in Pembrey Country Park.
In signing up to this this we decided it would be a good idea to raise money for charity at the same time. In the last few weeks I’ve been working really hard trying to raise money for a charity called Bobath Wales, a charity based in Cardiff that specialise in helping children born with cerebral palsy using different therapy techniques and is also somewhere I went when I was when I was a child.
Now, I know this isn’t going to be easy but the support and positive reaction I’ve had from family and friends has been amazing, I’ve even had encouraging messages from people I don’t even know which I am truly grateful for. This is another thing in my life I am determined face head on and conquer. If I can do it, surely you can too? And when I get to the finish line, with a smile on my face hopefully, I can know that I've help make even just one child’s life a little bit easier then it will all have been worth it.
Only three weeks to go until the event now! To say I I have mixed emotions would be an understatement, I’m nervous, excited, scared everything possible but mainly determined.
I know it’s totally normal to feel all these kind of emotions when facing such a big challenge but also with the added pressure of taking part in this event with my disability makes me a little bit more wary.
Can I do it? What if I fail? These are just some of the questions I asked myself over and over again while thinking about taking part in the event, I thought I’d never be able to do it but the more I thought about it and the more I talked about it to my friends and family they convinced me. Why can’t you do it? What’s stopping you? The answer to that was my mind and nothing to do with my physical capabilities, after all I’ve been deadlifting at the gym for months now and to me that was impossible not so long ago. So with the team I’ve put together and the support and belief people have shown in me over the last few months it has made me even more determined to do this. Most of of all I have to remember to enjoy it, it’s all well and good wanting to do well and raising money for a charity that is really important to me but this event is meant to be fun and is there for people to enjoy. So I’m trying not to put too much pressure on myself, worrying about what ifs or how long it’s going to take me and just do it with a smile on my face and have fun. Who knows I could take part in more events in the future?
Race Day - Sunday 6th October
Firstly, Sorry its been so long since my last post, life has been so busy with work and preparing for my big challenge. What a day Sunday was, I don’t even know where to start. Sunday morning I was surprised at how calm I was about it all but knew I’d worked hard and I was ready for it. Arriving at Prembrey Country Park and seeing everyone there and my family and friends start to arrive I did start to get nervous. As you know I have been fundraising for a CP charity, Bobath Wales and there was a representative there to support me which meant a lot. I wasn’t leaving that place without crossing that finishing line no matter how long it took me. I’m not going to lie, it was one of the toughest things I have ever faced in my life, physically. The first half was okay and I even surprised myself at how head on I was facing the obstacles. I was positive and had my team with me for support when I needed them. It was around half way through at the beach/sand dunes I really started to struggle. At that point I really thought I can’t do this, I have to stop. I sat down for a few minutes, gathered myself took a few deep breaths and remembered why I was doing this, I picked myself up and I kept going. My team were amazing in helping me through, making me laugh and keeping my spirits up all the way through. I could not have done it without them. Also the support I had from every marshall along the way, encouraging me and telling me how well I was doing helped me so much. Even though it was tough it was fun too and the water slide towards the end of the course was the best bit of it all, although I was freezing after! It’s been four days since the event and it’s slowly starting to sink in, what I actually achieved and no one can ever take that away from me. I absolutely loved it. I’m still struggling to express how emotional and overwhelmed I was when I crossed that finish line. I literally had nothing left at the end. I will be forever grateful to everyone who was there cheering me on until the very end. To receive my medal from Richard at the end meant so much to me, thank you and thank you for always believing in me and I hope I did you proud. It was an amazing event and everyone involved, from putting the event on to taking part should be so proud of themselves! To everyone who supported me, donated and are still donating to Bobath Wales thanks to you also, you've no idea how much it means to me.
I’m still a bit bruised and sore but I’ve recovered well and looking forward to getting back into training again in the next week or so. Who knows what challenge I’m going to take on next? There most definitely will be more to come! I will keep you updated on how much money I’ve raised in the next couple of weeks. 😊
So it’s been a while since I’ve updated you all on what I’ve been up to since completing my challenge. Even though I loved it, I’ve struggled a bit emotionally since. In the months leading up to the event everything I did inside and outside of gym and training was based around the event, making sure I was prepared mentally and physically for what I was going to face, it was all I could think about and I was so determined. Completing the event felt absolutely amazing and the support and congratulations was unbelievable and I was and still am truly grateful, but it quite literally took everything out of me both mentally and physically.
It’s been easier to recover physically than mentally, since that day I’ve obviously still been training as hard as before but as is normal when you achieve something so amazing after the initial high and excitement of it all, I started to feel a bit low and struggled to find motivation. I couldn’t help thinking, what now? What do I do next? A couple of people even said me “Ohhh you’re still going to the gym even though you done the event?” I even started to think maybe I should stop going?
I’m not one for giving up easily, I kept going and after talking through I started to see and think more positive again and started to think and plan some new goals for next year, which is exciting and something I’m looking forward to but for now I’m just learning and trying to enjoy and appreciate everything I’ve achieved this year because even if I don’t believe it myself sometimes it has been amazing!
I’m still setting and achieving my mini goals at the gym but I’m not planning anything too major before Christmas! I’m looking forward to spending some time with my family and preparing myself for what challenges are ahead me next year, inside and outside of the gym.
As promised, it’s taken quite a while to get in all together but I had a letter from the charity I was raising money for, Bobath Wales confirming that in doing my challenge I raised an amazing £1,120!
Receiving that letter made me feel so proud. Knowing that I’ve helped children who are going through the same struggles as I did growing up made it all totally worth it! I can’t wait to do it again next year!
Again it’s been a while apologises for that but everyday life is keeping me so busy at moment.
Just a quick update to let you all know what I’ve been up to over the last few months.
My training is still going really well and I’m still really enjoying it. Over the last few weeks I’ve spent a lot of time working on my deadlifts, as I was working towards achieving another goal.
So in preparation for this goal, I was working on my deadlifts almost every session. Deadlifts are probably my favourite part of training but doing them every session was tough and it didn’t come without it’s difficulties, I tend to struggle with with pain in my lower back due to the physical difficulties that I face and after a while I did start to feel some soreness in my back.
This is where listening to yourself and what your body is telling you is so important. I knew that if I didn’t then there was no way I was going to achieve this goal that we had set. So for a few sessions we stepped back and just slowly worked on my recovery making sure I did plenty of stretches in and outside of the gym, I do a lot of work at home too so that’s helps a lot. We only did some light work at the gym and I really made sure that I ate right and drank plenty of water and got enough rest. I was soon back on track.
So, my goal? What was it?
It was to go to a new gym somewhere I’d never been before, a totally different environment to what what I’m used to and complete a deadlift session with a few other people, some of which I’d met and know through training and some I didn’t know. I was also going to attempt to free bar deadlift 60kgs for the first time.
On the morning of the session did all the usual\right things, stretching, ate breakfast and drank plenty of water.
I even did my morning shift at work!
Was I nervous? Of course I was but I’d worked so hard and this was something I really wanted. I did my my warm up as I normally would in any other session. Slowly built it up, warm up set and slowly built up the weight rep by rep, making sure I had as much rest I felt I needed in between each set.
During the whole of of the session the only way I can describe how I felt was like I was having an out of body experience, that might sound ridiculous to some but whole thing of been in a place I said I would never ever go, with some people didn’t even know doing something I’d never thought I would truly in heart be able achieve just felt so surreal like I was watching myself from afar.
Then it was time to attempt my goal, the whole reason I was there. Did have doubts? Yes. Was I going to let that stop me from trying? No.
I went through my usual routine the same As i would on any other day in any other session.
Deep breath, feet set at the bar, a few words of encouragement, hands in position on the bar. I wasn’t quite comfortable first time so I stepped back and readjusted myself and started my setup up again, another deep breath and it went up. I did it! I free bar deadlifted 60kgs! 🏋🏻♀️
I’m my own biggest critic and as you’ll see from the video I know it’s far from perfect but I’m determined to work on it until i get it right but I’d achieved another major goal and the support and encouragement I got from everyone at that amazing session really helped and made me even more determined. It was also nice to see other people achieve some awesome goals and encourage them.
Obviously I was so pleased to achieve something so amazing but I was so drained after the session it probably didn’t come across like I was. Thinking back and watching the videos I realised I kind of let my emotions take over and I felt like I wasn’t fully focused and forgot about the little things which I was slightly disappointed about but perfection takes hard work and that doesn’t happen over night.
I also struggled to motivate myself for a week or so after. I’m the kind of person that works so much better when I have a big goal in mind and something to aim for. After I achieve that I always think what now now? Where do from here?
Even though I know that deadlift still needs hard work I like to set myself big goals, they help me focus on the mini goals that in the long term help me get to that point.
So at the moment I’m working hard on perfecting the little things to get me to my next major goal, which I already have planned and with right support I’m determined to get there.
I’ll keep you updated with how I get on! 😊👍🏻